Shrink wrap-up

(My sincerest apologies for the awful, wretched title!)

Well, I'm not too sure what I think of my therapist. Our meeting didn't really "flow" very naturally, it felt a little forced. But it was only the first session, so maybe it will get better? I'm of the opinion that if you don't feel like you're getting anything out of your shrink after the first 3 visits, then find another one. So I'll see how it goes next time (after we get back from vacation) and go from there.

We talked about a lot of things, but a couple things that stand out:

-Because I'm such a worrier, she suggested I put some time aside each day for worrying. That way if I start stressing about something during the day, I can tell myself that I'll worry about it later. Not sure how much that will work for me, but I guess it's worth a try.

-She told me she has 2 kids and that it took her over a year to conceive each of them. Then she started talking in a way that sounded like she thinks I'm just stressing too much and that's what's keeping me from getting pg. Ugh. Yes, I know. That's probably the last thing I wanted to hear out of her. For now though, and since I do need help with managing stress anyway, I am giving her the benefit of the doubt that she's just ignorant.

Overall, I wasn't really impressed. She did give me that one suggestion that I would never have thought of myself, and I will try it out over the next couple weeks. I'll also think of some more specific things I want to talk about, and maybe that will help kind of guide the next session a little better. I'm expecting I might have to find someone else though. We'll see, I'm not going to worry about it right now!


-my husband grows cotton- said...

I am sorry your session didn't flow smoothly. Hopefully the next one will go better, if not find someone else!

I hope you have ALOT OF FUN on your roadtrip! I will be following your road trip blog when you post it :)

E said...

Yeah, that little trick of setting time aside each day to "worry" doesn't work for over worriers. It just isn't that simple to turn off the "worry" switch. KWIM? If it were that simple then they wouldn't be a worrier.

I agree, if you don't feel like you click then move on.

My therapist says some out of whack things sometimes and sometimes she gives great advice.

I hope it gets better for ya.

Anonymous said...

When DH and I first got engaged, we decided to seek some professional premarital counseling. There was nothing wrong with our relationship, we just wanted to go into marriage with our eyes open. The first few meetings were a little forced. She was getting to know us. We were getting to know her. It took about 3 sessions until things felt more natural.

So, I think your idea to give her the benefit of the doubt is good. Sounds like she at least has some ideas about worrying...which is always helpful. I am a worrier too!!!

Good luck.

elephantscanremember said...

I hope it picks up next time. (Hugs)

Have a great time! Pick me up on your way too, please.

Allison said...

LOL at "I'll worry about it later." Nice one. ;)

I hope the next session feels less forced and more natural. NOW GO GET PACKIN'!!!!

Anonymous said...

I believe the first session or two is like the getting to know you stage...like an arkward first date !

I write all my worries in my cute little journal. Writing them down gets them out of my head and sometimes then the worries don't seem as bad..did you understand that ? lol..

Emily said...

I'm sorry you didn't feel right at ease during your first meeting, but I'm glad you are willing to return to give her another chance. Have fun on your trip!