Giving up

No, I'm not giving up TTC. In fact, hubs and I are going to be bringing out the big guns starting very soon.

So far we haven't given up very much in the quest for a baby. I think part of the reason is that TTC has been hard on me from day one. Because I was off BCP for over 2 years by the time we started actively trying, I had a feeling we'd have problems conceiving; so TTC was never fun or exciting for me. It was depressing and discouraging well before I received my "infertile" diagnosis. To counteract that, hubs and I decided to try to integrate some fun into our lives over the past year. We planned parties, hung out with friends, went out to eat, took road trips, went to Dodger games, splurged on little things, etc.

But all good things must come to an end! We've decided that it's time to get serious about this babymaking business. We'll be seeing an RE soon, probably within the next two months, and we have to cut expenses to afford that. No more weekend getaways (after our anniversary of course), no more pricey seats at Dodger games, and, most heartbreaking to me - no more wine club memberships! I must sound like a total lush, but I seriously love wine, and I really love our (three) wine clubs. Unfortunately, they're our most expensive luxury and therefore will be the first things to get cut. Sigh... I will miss you my friends!

It's for the greater good, I know. I think I mentioned before that we'll be ending our TTC journey in a little less than two years if we don't conceive sooner, so now is the time to buckle down. It won't be fun, but hopefully it will be worth it.

As for today, AF is blessedly on her way out and BD time has commenced. I have an acu appointment later this morning, and game night with my sibs after work. Let's hope for a wonderful Tuesday for all of us :)


elephantscanremember said...

I commend you on taking a more proactive approach. I wish you luck!

(I am figuring we are in the same boat. I have a few years on you age-wise, so I'd best be scootin' along with it too.)

Anonymous said...

Now just because you are cutting back on the pricey things doens't mean that you can't enjoy yourselves ! Be sure to do FUN things while your TTC journey continues with the RE, this is when you will need it most !

E said...

I know it sucks having to give up things that make you happy while on this depressing TTC journey. I hope it is well worth it very very soon!

Allison said...


Hopefully the "next stage" will bring you a little more hope and a LOT more excitement (in the way of a BFP). XOXO

Heather said...

I think that's the best thing, fill your days with fun things to do. Does your insurance not cover anything regarding IF? Our old insurance was great in every single way possible, except IF. I don't know why they make it so expensive for couples.
Good luck at your appointment!

Emily said...

I agree with pp, even though you have to cut out some luxuries, be sure to make couple time and do fun things still... now is the time you will need each other the most! Praying for good things for you Kitty!!!!

Caitlin said...

I'm actually happy for you guys in making this decision...it sucks having to give up those luxuries,but it is only for a short time and the end result will be the best luxury of all! Motherhood!

Kate said...

Yay! Sounds like the resolution has been made - the luxuries you're planning on forsaking will be long forgotten when (yes 'when' - it's worth being positive!) your LO arrives!