10.08.2009

The board

It hasn't been that long since I started frequenting WMD's 12+ board. I believe it was in January or February of this year. For those of you ladies who were there when I first started, I want to say THANK YOU. Not only did I start commenting before I officially hit the 12 months mark (I think I was a month shy), but I know I made one or two slightly triggery comments without putting "trigs." I honestly didn't know any better - this was the first message board I'd ever in my life gotten involved in. But, the ladies accepted me anyway. No one got on my case for not putting "trigs," or for jumping in without starting off with an intro, or anything else.

Now that I'm an experienced message-boarder (I think I have over 600 posts now! Holy cow I need a life), I can see how my faux pas would upset people. I admit I get a little suspicious whenever I see a new poster, and I always check their posting history before I respond. I get a little possessive of that board... But I never attack people for making innocent mistakes.

Some people have said they don't want anyone posting on the board unless they qualify as a 12+ months TTCer. Now, I don't think that WMD would ever allow that, but what really chaps me is that I posted a very thoughtful and considerate response to the person who suggested this, and MY post was deleted by the moderator (not B). Mine. The one saying that we should be accepting of newbies, and give people the benefit of the doubt when they post unintentionally offensive things. That it's okay to educate them on the board's etiquette, but that I didn't want to see our board turned into some kind of exclusive clique that looks at outsiders as, well, outsiders.

Anyway, like I said. Thank you for accepting me, warts and all, onto that board. I'm just glad I started posting 9 months ago and not now. I'd be ridden out on a rail faster than you can you say "baby dust" (and don't even get me started on that one!). Like Bob Dylan said, times they are a-changing. And maybe it's getting to be that time for me...

12 comments:

elephantscanremember said...

I am glad I was there to get while the gettin' was still good.

If the drama is from who I am thinking, she hasn't even been on the board that long herself! She started not too long before or after I left. Honestly, I don't even miss it, even after all the time I put into it.

E said...

Wow, are you F**ING kidding me?

I started posting the same time you did on the 12+, and I can admit those boards are not the same anymore, sadly.

It has turned into baby-making gangland over there. *Peace out*.

Sorry they treated you that way. Jerks.

Tanya said...

Kitty, I know this might sound funny, but that is the very reason I'm not on the board anymore. I feel more like an outsider coming up on 2 yrs than I ever did when you ladies welcomed me in Feb. So thank you too! I agree with everything you said in this post, but unfortunately, the feel of the board to me has completely changed and I only go back to post to a few people that don't have blogs.

AJ48 said...

I know that I posted a few comments without "trigs" in the headline. I honestly didnt know any better either. When I did finally realize I felt awful. The last thing that I would want is to have someone else feel bad for my comments/thoughts.

There should be some kind of "new to this board" message that automatically goes out explaining such things....

Sarah said...

Kitty, my username is ssebby on the board. I've been on the board a little bit longer than you. I can't believe the issues that have blown up over there in the past few days!!! I don't have a blog so it's the only place I can go for support but I hardly know anyone there anymore. I am fine with people who graduated coming over to give updates or people coming on to ask questions that us more experienced TTC'ers might know. I think the person who exploded must have been having a bad day. I just wanted to say that I've always read your posts on the board and I hope you don't leave becuase of this...

Kristin said...

Yeah, that whole thing was stupid. I appreciated your post, and when I posted one saying that I agreed with what you had said and all that mine got deleted too. I'll admit I'M THE ONE WHO REPORTED THE BULLYING POSTS to the moderators. It was ridiculous to attack her like that. But if the people on the board want to treat others like that, I want NOTHING to do with it.

Steph O. said...

I'm pretty much done with the boards. I think they come in waves. Those who've been there longer have seen enough of it to not be mena. But once in a while, the boards get a new "boss" or "gang" who make their own set of rules & enforce them harshly.

I missed whatever happened, but I know the kind of crap you're talking about.

BTW- There's something for you on my blog. :)

Caitlin said...

Wow - I haven't been over to the board in about a week and obviously I missed something big! I've stopped frequenting because it just isn't the same.

Those girls are nice enough...it's just not the same vibe as when I started back in November. I was welcomed with open arms and connected with so many women. I don't have much of a connection and feel like a stranger whenever I post, now. And what happened to B? I see a new moderator over there that I'm not used to..

Rain Child said...

Kitty,
I nominated you for an award over on my blog. I hope it's fun...

Christina said...

I remember when you first came over to the board. I lurk over there now and can't believe how petty people can get! If you don't like a post just move on. It doesn't seem like a very supportive board anymore like it was back when I was there.

Allison said...

As a lurker/poster for, eh, over five years now (that can't be right? yikes!), I can tell ya that the board goes in waves. Sometimes it's warm, fuzzy and respectful and sometimes it's downright nasty. Sorry to hear that it's going through a downturn right now...but it's probably because those of us who made it a lovely place are now mostly in blogland. ;)

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